Mirrors and Windows : Is EQ for YOU?

Mirrors and Windows!

The key to successful interactions with people – Smart Working Relationships – can be simply described with the following metaphor.

Do you choose to look at that moment using a mirror or a window?


If you always use a mirror you will see everything relating back to you.

You will be using your own filters: your needs, your values, your beliefs, your emotions. If you like what you see, you will probably have constructive responses. But if you don’t, then your responses may well be destructive, based on the event not making sense to your ego – your reflected self.


Remember, some people draw on their past experiences when they react and so often need help them see the same thing in a number of different perspectives.

Therefore, if you look at the situation through a window, you will be exploring an external view.

This external focus let’s you see what’s actually going on outside in the world around you, so that you view experiences as others may see them.

You will see others and their environment…..and learn because it’s not always as you thought it would be.

However, if this is the only way you view things, then you may be placing others people’s needs before your own and therefore not allowing yourself to focus on the drivers that your inner self requires.


Mirrors are great if you need to re-evaluate your own performance and to find inner focus and strength in tough times. Think about using mirrors to maximise your time – to help you see what you need to do in the time allocated and stick to it by saying ‘No’ to time thieves and distractions.

Windows are successfully used in smart leadership positions. They help you to see how others need motivating and share successes. Windows are equally strong when networking because they help you to listen, engage and share ideas and future actions.

When it comes to working relationships, try removing the mirror and opening a window. It may just help you see things more clearly.

What about you?

Do you find yourself using more of a window or mirror in your life?

Self awareness and discovery of who you are is an essential step to activating Smart Leadership. Smart Leaders are able to build 2 way trust that is an essential factor in managing distributed teams.

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